If you're not ready, he needs to chill or go find some other hole to fill. I am going to assume that dude loves you and just wants to help you get better because he knows you want to get better.. Which did he pick, if you dont mind the question? But it will definitely *not* help if Im already in a funk, other than possibly giving me an excuse to go outside and do something vaguely useful-feeling. Seriously. Just wanted to clarify that, unlike LWs boyfriend, I never tried to help my ex. You still get to decide whether you like him. I cannot get out of bed. And thats okay, too. he told me to give him space but i feel like he is mad with me and ignoring me; My boyfriend and i have been together 6 months and we had a big fight on the weekend. He may have had his fun with you, but now he is ready to move on. If he realizes how much fun his girlfriend is and misses the way she used to make him laugh all the time, hell come crawling back to you. If youre not into cooking, make a weekly date to try new restaurants in the neighborhood. Yo! Its really easy to end up with similarly dodgy partners. In hindsight a lot of stuff was terrible and controlling but because I was invested beilived what he said until there was no trust left at all and I had utterly tried everything to get him to listen. Ill offer help if asked, but otherwise, I try to stay out of itunless an (in)action is directly affecting me, as it was in this case. Once the facts are straight we can deal with the issue. Has the boyfriend pulled out stories of other people who have similar problems and yet manage to be super-awesome-amazing-overachievers? Helpful. Some guys want to be in a serious relationship; others dont. When people get all up on how logical and not swayed by petty emotions they are, I always end up thinking about the narrator of Ancillary Justice an AI whos been programmed with emotions because they *allow her to make better decisions*. It epitomizes an important, or even THE important element of a relationship. Oh, this reminds me so much of one or two friends Ive had. Don't jump to any conclusion your mind is playing tricks on you so don't let it. But for LW, I think that goes back to another commenters suggested script of, How does this [exercise/ food choice/ personal health issue] affect [Boyfriend]? in thatit doesnt affect the boyfriend. The Captains comment, For a relationship to survive a crisis like that, you have to like the person (not just love them) and respect the person (not just love them) especially rings true for me. That said, Ive gotten him to doctors, fed him, and made sure he took his meds at his worst; Ive helped to monitor his moods and symptoms and brought changes up for his consideration when I notice changes. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. By the time our relationship came to an end, we fought about the stupidest things, because we were both really fighting over who got to decide how I behaved. Some guys are just lazy, especially when it comes to relationships. Eat veggies! offered as a panacea for your depression sounded so much like when my fianc would tell me just drive more even on days when I was really struggling with memories of past car accidents. Your boyfriends reaction to those scripts will tell you whether this relationship is worth keeping, or whether its time to move on. Examine your behavior. Consider date nights too. Only I was the fixer, always trying to give my boyfriend helpful advice about how hes doing everything wrong and hed be so much healthier and happier if only hed go to bed earlier, eat more veggies, and agree with me about more stuff. Being The One Who Helps gives you a bit of power and a (falsely) elevated self-esteem. At all. I dont think relationships where somebody tries to mold you into their vision of you are a good thing. When in reality there was an awful lot of family abandoning and not marrying your pregnant girlfriend going on in the past as well. I usually agree with our captain, but this time I see all those scripts as an exercise in trying to change him into a reasonable boyfriend even as hes trying to change you into someone who eats her vegetables. Get a cookbook and try new recipes out with each other. Get him to chase you instead." That is good friendly advice but there's a little more to it than that. He used to love visiting your family, friends and all the places you like going to. He used to be the one who cheered you up when you were down, but now he is also always in a bad mood. I find that when one person is overly invested in helping someone else, its often an indicator that they have their own issues which theyre trying to feel better about. Encouragement works so much better than harping on all the ways you could be doing more. With that said, the author adds the context that the dog was originally her ex-boyfriend's, and he had been trying to get his dog back for a while. His comfort may depend on your discomfort and misery. you can do it! the whole time. My partner had to learn to adjust to a massive change in our relationship and in me. Again, I dont know your boyfriend/relationship, but if he (and if you + your therapist are okay with this) is willing to come to therapy with you, it could be an option. Cant think of a more clear way to phrase it. My biggest mistakes have been to really harp on what I think he needs to do get out and be social, mainly, which doesnt help his depression and leads to resentment as well. Aside from that, by telling him that you don't like her will make him see your point of view. And at one point ran into one of his grown kids from the first family on a boardwalk. I like to have a logical reason for everything I do and feel, and I dont have a lot of other problem-solving methods. Every single opportunity he gets, a controlling boyfriend will try to make you feel guilty for not toeing his line. That creates tremendous pressure on you and just makes you feel shitty about yourself. As I recovered from the depression we had a couple of myob talks about lunch time menus, weight and health (soup was a bit of a red herring here). I mean, its not like the fucking JerkBrain wasnt already screaming at me about what a pathetic, useless fuckup I was, so having a physical JerkBrain Enforcement Squad really helped me!!!! Nope, cant recall this either. Maybe just focus on the making yourself happy part for now, and your partner can either help or GTFO. Not really. What can I do for them?, Im sad because the person I love is being sad at me, and it would be so much easier if they were happy. When I was in my early 20s I was a mess. Very well said. It sounds like you two have a chance. I saw progress though, and it made it easier to wade though until it was resolved. Your Mileage May Vary. The only script I know of for remarks like that is What did you just say to me? Finally, I also worry a bit about something almost the opposite of not wanting to help you through hard times, which is not wanting you to get better. Its also almost impossible to judge a situation from one account one letter, in this instance. He cooks and I cook but we never leave the house. Couldnt. Then all of a sudden he stopped calling and you're not hearing from him at all. Or bringing you vegetable soup when youre too depressed to cook? They are raw cookie dough and you can see the cookie and you want the cookie, but the cookie dough is just not done enough, but you really want that cookie so much and you know how much better it would be if it were finished baking.and so you are mad that they arent doing what it takes to be a cookie. My next question is maybe an obvious one, but what would happen if you didnt have a self-appointed expert on you and what you should be doing jump down your throat about all of your life choices or give you the silent treatment in your life at all? renovate the bathrooms, start an advice columnit doesnt have to be terrible. Ive also gone through some tough times with depression and needed a bit more care than I would otherwise. This is why I only see him in person on a time limited basis and call him on the phone and have been known to hang up on him when he does this kind of policing. So much sympathy to the LW for trying to make this work on top of making themself happy. He never lashes out with his anger, he just doesnt talk much when hes mad. He is like the fucking human incarnation of depression. And I bet if you looked at that guys life youd find plenty of ways in which he prioritizes his own comfort over a nebulous idea of personal growth, because he sees himself as Just Fine already. It Does. Anger is a perfectly valid thing to feel when a partner is depressed, what really matters is what you do about it. When I struggle with depression, I am fighting back against the numbness that settles over my body and mind standing up for yourself and your own care is such a wonderful and inspiring thing, wishing you all the best! You've forgotten your dreams. If you own the decision yourself, he cant position himself as one of two potential bosses of you (the other being your therapist), because youre making it clear that YOU are the boss of you. But if he does choose to be a relationship with you, he IS obligated not to be a condescending asshole about it. Don't let your wishes control your thoughts and feelings. Essentially, he supported me equally on good days and bad days. He could be funny, kind, generous, and decent. And there's a reason he can't let go of her, and there's a reason you feel like the bond you have with . I have to agree with this. be positive about the steps your partner does take every time I am aware of my partner taking a session on his exercise bike (which isnt every time he uses it, but often we watch tv together while he exercises), I comment about how I am proud of him. He ate it for lunch (everyday!) In some cases, he may have been at the point where it was becoming too serious for him. If youve ever had that feeling of emptiness in the pit of your stomach, when you realize your boyfriend stopped making an effort to make things work with you, this article is for you. This is a guy who hasnt figured out how to be kind and supportive in even the most basic ways. Actual logic is about statements, facts, reasons, not about How Logical I Am. Or maybe your boyfriend hasnt really been invested from the beginning and what seemed like an effort on his part was simply because he felt obliged to try since you gave him such strong signals early on. Ive seen it with Dan Savage, Dear Prudence, and lots of other people who offer advice in various forms of media. Former generations have never been as straightlaced about sex and love as they, or their descendants, want us to believe. And should usually comes from a not so great place. It makes me feel like nothing I do will ever be good enough, that he will always focus on what Im not doing instead of what I am trying to do. Trouble sleeping. You know what they do respond to? You cant have every moment be a comfortable one otherwise youre never actually challenging yourself, but they are needed otherwise you burn out. You might think about trying an extended period of being away from each other, if such a thing is remotely possible. Especially when someone you love isnt ready or isnt currently up to taking steps for their own well-being. , Become a copyeditor, buy a classic motorcycle thats been garaged since Trudeau was PM . Living in constant stress, even if its a stress youve chosen yourself in the name of self-improvement, isnt good for you. 18 Sure Signs He Will Marry You Someday: Cues to Decode His Intention, What Makes a Man Want to Marry You: These 7 Things. Is he making home-cooked, healthy meals? But for it to be helpful, she has to want to include me. This helped my husband and I when I was diagnosed with Anxiety Disorder. If I turn back to him and say I dont feel like it, hes completely down with that. It can sometimes be really helpful to challenge yourself, whether thats to exercise more or read more or keep things cleaner around the house. One of our deepest needs as humans is to feel understood, and true understanding is not possible without empathy. Sometimes we are in love with the idea of the person and it makes you so angry that they are not that person. Anyway, enough about me. The LW stops loving him Ive been on both sides of the Have you eaten a food today? It seems to be the get-out-of-jail-free card for everyones tactless remarks and dumbass behaviour. It could be as simple as he just no longer feels like being around you, which means there isnt much motivation for making an effort either. OTOH, healthy eating and exercise are also always promoted as the big pop-cultural panaceas for depression and are indeed helpful tools for some people, sometimes, but unfortunately mesh far too well with the cultural meme that people are only sick (or fat) because theyre lazy, greedy or just Not Trying Hard Enough. Thank you so much. Ding! If you are experiencing some or all of the following signs, it could be that your boyfriend has stopped making an effort: Your conversations are brief, and he doesnt appear to be as interested in your life anymore. Why would they do that to me?. 15 Signs He Has Stopped Making an Effort If you are experiencing some or all of the following signs, it could be that your boyfriend has stopped making an effort: 1. After that I dated someone briefly who dismissed everything thing I pointed to as evidence of our vast incompatibility with the shibboleth that relationships take work! Yes, they do take tending and attention, but working on our relationship isnt going to fix things like your habit of borrowing money from me and never paying it back or getting angry when I need time alone. So few people seem to get this. 3) when I said, I walked for twenty minutes today! Your walking wasnt exercise enough for him??! Again, voice of experience, you do not want the realization of how stressful he really is to be when youve been thrown back to the bottom of the well. If theres child support or alimony involved, the presence of those forms should be able to take care of the financial requirements.). He wants to spiral your self-esteem back down, and then play the good boyfriend who knows whats best for poor you card. There are a few reasons Ive heared suggested that sort of personality can seem really familiar and thus a comfortable and easy thing to be around (because its what youre used to). What this involves is offering your emotional openness and love (instead of the tension of stress, fear and needing something to be happy). And because each route is different, its harder to get into the but yesterday I cycled faster/further/whatever competition with yourself or others. He has completely stopped doing anything and we don't ever go out and if we do, he has to be forced basically. also: breakfast for dinner is awesome and should be a part of every week Unless you dont want it to be, in which case it shouldnt! But now, today, you have already exercised. My ex-husband was horrible about trying to fix me and getting really mad when I didnt want his help. But I really think you deserve somebody who loves, respects, and likes you as you are right now. It also ties into one of the Captains ideas of spending time with your partner who has depression in the spirit of liking and wanting to spend time with them as a person, not a project. That there is no end in sight, no real goal. Another sign your boyfriend has stopped making an effort is that you start doubting whether he really loves, cares, and wants to be with you. My family hated that I smoked and were anxious about what it was doing to my health, my boyfriend hated it, my friends hated it but trying to quit for other people never worked. Then he can treat you even worse. Hlep is that thing that looks like help and is presented in a context that would normally surround helpuntil you blink and look again and realize that it isnt help at all. I know plenty of people who want to be helpful but dont really know how. So in order to save your relationship, you need to find out what is going on and take corrective action if necessary. I might add that my husband wholeheartedly approves of this, and Im sure he does the same thing when Im not around. (I dont think its as uncommon as people would have you think.). may I say something? They are not feelings police tools. Your boyfriends Exercise more! This is totally fine when your relationship is great. (Side note, I knew Id keep my current partner when, about 3 hours after telling him about how I wanted to be healthier and asking him to help me, he walked in on me stress-eating a peanut-butter and chocolate chip sandwich after a particularly stressful phone call, and his only comment was You know, thatd taste better if you gave it 15 seconds in the microwave. Thats love, folks.). But I really appreciate CAs gentleness to LW about that. If you like to cook, it might be really awesome if you two discuss the idea of having friends over for dinner a bit more often. Going from being in a rough place to feeling better is a huge accomplishment, but it can be a tender one too. It didnt! So every time he drove me to a surprise, which slowly morphed into _every fucking date_, I had all this tension and stress. But thats the best I can think of that might be of some help. I hope you get out much faster than I was able to. I think this list is a great idea! A lot of the time, people feel like they need a Big Serious Reason (like I caught him bonking my sister or he burned my entire book collection then peed on the ashes) to dump someone. LW, you are already doing so much good stuff for yourself, and at your own pace. That looks like progress to me.. Reasonable. ), the only logical course of action is taking that into account when youre dealing with people. Sometimes I clean, sometimes I knit, sometimes I go for a walk, but I feel like the fastest way to undermine him is to should at him. Walking is brilliant (assuming you have the spoons and physical ability to do it) its gentler on your joints than a lot of other cardio, you dont need special clothing, and its free. Theres a bigamist in my family tree he walked out on one family, changed his name and got married again. Yup. The awful thing is that our families groom us to be victims of whatever BS is their flavour of abuse, and then there we are, pre-groomed for whatever arseholes show up to take advantage. 14. There are people out there who will see you for how bright and funny and reasonable and cool you are. When men care about a woman, they want to look good and impress her. But you are in therapy and making efforts to recover, and it doesnt sound like your condition and treatment plan isnt putting their well-being at risk, so that doesnt seem to be happening here. Ive seen this shaming from the peanut gallery even in dating relationships. He also once painted a portrait of Hitler, which has got to be one of the worlds most dubious claims to fame! These are pretty direct statements. He is not interested in you. I hope so. If your life bores, frustrates, disappoints, or depresses you, then it's time for a change. And because he had explained all this, if I wasnt working out enough, he didnt feel heard.. Loving yourself is the most important love of all. I guarantee you it will only get worse. A person who fundamentally likes and respects you is going to hear them and back way off. What can I say to make him want me again? I dont need bullying at that point -my brain does that for me- I need sustenance and caring. If you love someone, why are you punishing them? My boyfriend wants to go all the way but I'm scared it will hurt. We also set aside a weekly time for Partnership Serious Talks and during that time we create a space for advice and suggestions that we then do not revisit at any other point during the week. He may, on some level, have convinced himself that all will be right with the world if youd just conform to his standards, but if he really, truly cared, hed look on the changes youve already made as big positives and cheer you on as you continue your journey towards better living. Also, being logical in emotions includes: I feel sad, so logically I should do things that make me less sad, Im feeling stressed, so I will eat food I enjoy as self-care, and I feel emotionally drained, so today I will make fewer demands on myself. It is not logical to demand someone ignore their emotions. Talk to your boyfriend in a quiet, calm setting. In the latter casetry the scripts here for some firmer words of quit that already, mention that you *have* a therapist and this is their *job* and his job now is to be a listening ear and a source of happiness and relaxation, and if he still refuses to comply, dump him. Its possible. Make sure his action matches whatever he tells you. Its just whining, the fact is that if you really care about someone, you want to impress them. These are some of the reasons guys stop putting in an effort. I'd always known that my boyfriend was a bit insecure due to his previous partners cheating on him, but I never realized how often I would text him during the day to let him know who I was with, what I was doing, where I was, and other small things. This right here: to the point that he says its the stupidest thing hes ever heard is verbal abuse. You will never be trying hard enough/doing enough, because it is not about you. Something stuck out to me in your letter, you said your boyfriend thinks that if you do your healthy self improvement things then he wont have to deal with you having depression. I dont know. First, lets consider the signs youll notice when your boyfriend stops making an effort. This is emotional abuse designed to make you feel incompetent and bend your will to his. He says I need to do more, try harder, and not let myself be comfortable. One cannot Straw Vulcan of Superior Reasoning their way into ones partner conforming exactly to ones own standards both internally and externally. Remind you when I see its not done? man, you know, there is even an episode of star trek entirely about how when Spock tries to logic everything, the human crew gets really upset with him and McCoy is like emotion exists you dick and Spocks like the deuce you say BUT THEN HE STARTS TO ACCOUNT FOR HUMAN EMOTIONS IN HIS DECISION MAKING AND STUFF WORKS BETTER. He likes the you in his head that he wants to shape you into being. This is another clue that the boyfriend isnt all that invested in the LWs progress toward real, positive change. But that partnership is one weve negotiated and practiced over the years. When your boyfriend stops making an effort, there may be a good reason behind it. Value to him also includes your offering of feminine energy and responsiveness, your surrender to connection moment by moment (which helps deepen your connection and renew his deep attachment to you). He wants me to exercise more, eat healthier, help out more with the cleaning, and take better care of myself. I know I'm not perfect and made mistakes (not cheating or anything like that). Youre a real person. When Dude just tells you that he knows best for you, that is patronising as fuck. Nevermind the fact that none of my friends were actually offended at all, he just couldnt admit that he had a problem with something I had said. Hlepy people may accept correctionor they may not. A lot of times he may have hinted you before that there was something that bothered him. Release your grip and be open to any possibility in your relationship. This is not a democracy. Life might be simpler for some of us if it were like that, but it isnt. Earlier in your relationship, your partner was always interested in finding out things about you, from your goals and dreams, to your likes and dislikes, and even how your day was. Expressing that anger towards the situation? I said I agreed, and we broke things off by mutual agreement. Its still manipulation. Its also a thing that gets easier once youve done it. (Like money, work, how one treats others possessions, punctuality, use or misuse of power, objectively insulting words, etc.) The thing here is that logic and reason are being juxtaposed against emotion as binary opposites. Doesnt mean partners have to stay, or even should stay. We both are very logic- and reason-focused people, That bit in particular sounds so much like my ex-husband. you arent going to get better if he keeps breathing down your neck.. When your boyfriend just slithers away leaving you completely confused and broken hearted, it adds to the suffering. LW, Ive been in your shoes, and youre ignoring how very NOT nice the boyfriend is being with all this. until I stop caring. Soup kitchens. And you know what? Only the writer can ascertain the true lay of the land, and Im very pleased shes seeing a good therapist; she seems to be on the road to recovery. Do either of you even know whether those goals are achievable? Best weekend alone ever! That stupidest thing Ive ever heard bit set off major alarm bells for me, too. i suffer from anxiety, have self esteem issues and insecuriti. Take care of yourself. Ugh, replying to myself. Im so frustrated that youre hurting, and that I cant do more to help your recovery. Reasonable. Which in turn meant that every time he took me to a surprise, he could justify it by saying that I always had fun so I just needed to trust him. I needed therapy, not just support, and his well-meaning attempts to get me active were grating and undermining to me. 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